Jane Doe

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Things We Don’t Want to Know on a Date

In Uncategorized on November 30, 2010 at 9:29 am

How many calories are in an entire bag of cheetos.  Nam – Nam.

Why your friend is ‘ugly’.  Grow a brain please – if you don’t have something interesting to say, just don’t talk.

Why your boss sucks.  Everyone’s boss sucks, get over it or move on.

Why you were ‘dumped’.  Lie – this only makes you look desperate.

What your pet-peeves are.  Save the scare tactics for after love has begun.  Then they’re stuck – pet peeves and all.

Why your dad left your mom.  I shouldn’t have to say this, but seriously…all ‘in-depth’ conversations should be saved for after the relationship has began. Think of yourself like an onion, peel back layers upon layers.

How nervous or intimidated you are – trust me most women (and men) can pick that up on their own.  Keep the conversation flowing and engaging by asking questions and shutting your pie hole.  People like people who listen – fact.

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Cleanse Your Game Pallet

In Uncategorized on November 21, 2010 at 9:05 am

When you fill your life up with joy and fulfillment, food no longer becomes your crutch. Believe yourself to be a fit and healthy person, practice the internal dialogue.  “I am a beautiful, fit, amazing (insert guy or girl).”

Easy on the booze. I’ve seen more people mess up their game because they drank too much courage juice. They were anxious about the date or anxious about the outcome so they drank themselves silly and either acted crazy, stupid, or easy. None of which is attractive.

Healthy people have less anxiety.

Less anxiety elicits a cool/calm/collected demeanor.

Cool-Calm-Collected:  ‘the game’ defined.

Learn to Let Go

In Uncategorized on November 20, 2010 at 4:15 am

Let go of all hatred in your heart. Let go of all grudges towards others in your life. This is harrrrrd. Oh man is it hard. Let go of the fact that your dad criticized your every move or a past partner cheated on you. Let it go and if your mind starts to wonder to that familiar place of anger or hurt become conscious. And say no. “I’m not letting this thought rule my mind any longer… I’m moving on because forgiving is a beautiful feeling and I’m a beautiful person. Anger only hurts one person and that person is you.”

Once you learn to let go, you’ll naturally be happier.

Happier people are more attractive people.

And at the end of the day you have to be happy with yourself before you can be happy with anyone else.  It’s a cliche for a reason.

Jane Doe Dating: About the Blog & Contact for Coaching Services

In Uncategorized on November 20, 2010 at 3:56 am

This blog is simple.  It’s a blog about dating.  It’s a blog about teaching the ‘rules of the game’ as I see it from my subjective opinion.  If you don’t like my opinion, don’t read.

I base all my advice from my own past personal experience (happily retired from the game) and my clients, one being my best friend who, of course, gets all my advice for free.

Dating means:  There is no label yet.  Relationships are work and while some of this info may be applicable to relationships, most of the advice here is meant for the courting phase.

The reason for me writing this blog:  everyone I’ve helped has begged me to write a book.  So that’s what I’m doing.  The blog comes first.

(As a side note:  Writing is not my forte and as an effort to save time and energy I will be writing in a conversational tone.  My time spent on this blog will be merely a way to craft ideas for the book.)

Please jump in and say what you think.  I love to hear others’ opinions.

or email me:  incognito.janedoe@gmail.com if you would like my coaching services.

The standard fee is $100 per hr.  but may be lower if time needed is extensive, say an intense beginners week.